Tuesday, December 24, 2013

When I Awake

Just the other day a teenager was talking to me about the coming of Christ.  She mentioned that some people and preachers believe they know when He is coming back and that some say in 2014.  I tried to assure her to not put her faith in men, but put her faith in God and believe the words that Jesus said that no man knows the day or the hour in which Jesus will be returning.  She mentioned that it bothered her because that would mean that she wouldn’t even live to be 19 years old.  I told her not to focus so much on these earthly years, but to make sure she was ready for the coming of the Lord then she would be assured eternal life.

Mark 13:28-33 KJV
28 Now learn a parable of the fig tree; When her branch is yet tender, and putteth forth leaves, ye know that summer is near:
29 So ye in like manner, when ye shall see these things come to pass, know that it is nigh, even at the doors.
30 Verily I say unto you, that this generation shall not pass, till all these things be done.
31 Heaven and earth shall pass away: but my words shall not pass away.
32 But of that day and that hour knoweth no man, no, not the angels which are in heaven, neither the Son, but the Father.
33 Take ye heed, watch and pray: for ye know not when the time is.

But after this conversation with her, I thought back to when I was a teenager.  I can remember thinking to myself that I wanted to do many things before the Lord came back.  I wanted to get married and become a mother.  I can remember praying that God would let those things happen before Christ returned.  I’m now 35, I have 2 kids, so God answered my prayer to let me be a mother, but I have still never married.  Now that I’m older I still would love to get married, but if it isn’t in God’s Will before the return of Jesus, then it just isn’t meant to be.  I don’t find it sad that I may never marry, because as a Christian, I am already betrothed to Christ and am His Bride. 
Revelation 19:6-9 KJV
6 And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunderings, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigneth.
7 Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.
8 And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints.
9 And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.

But I can remember being that teenager who thought that having an earthly relationship with a man was extremely important.  Okay, I find myself now thinking it is important, but the difference now is that back then I was willing to give up everything to have an earthly relationship, including giving up my relationship with God.  I did that very thing and it is one thing that I regret.  I realize God has forgiven me, but I often wonder if I would have waited on God to send me who He wanted me to be with, would my life have turned out differently?  But then again, I serve an all-knowing God, so perhaps when I was praying as a teenager, He already knew I would turn to my own doings to find love instead of waiting on Him, perhaps, that one special man that He had for me wouldn’t be ready for a relationship with me until I was older.  I have honestly been praying without ceasing for the past couple years that God would send me the man He wanted in my life, but this man hasn’t approached me yet.  I don’t understand why, but I’m not angry or heartbroken (not that there haven’t been times when I was a little down because God hasn’t sent me someone), but for some reason, I think that perhaps God wants to ensure that I’m not going to do what I did in the past and turn to my own doings again.  Maybe that’s why I have had to wait so long because He wants to know that I’m completely in love with Him.  After all my past earthly relationships, I think I have to be completely in love with God before I could be totally and completely in love with a man.  Maybe that isn’t the best explanation for it, but in not so many words, I want God to place a love in my heart for the man he wants me to be with and for Him to place a love in that man’s heart for me as well. 
Matthew 6:19-21 KJV
19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:
20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

 Deuteronomy 6:5 KJV
And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.

I got a little off topic, but my point is, I don’t know everything about what God has planned for me in my earthly life, but I do know that nothing in the world is worth losing my own soul for, not even the love of a man. 

Mark 8:36 KJV
I wasn’t sure how I wanted to end this post.  I wrote all of the above last night, but I just didn’t feel I was done with it yet, so I saved it instead of posting it last night.  I continued to search through Scriptures, but couldn’t find any that I felt I needed to add to this post.  So I decided to go to bed and ended up praying myself to sleep.  I prayed for many loved ones, for that someone special to come in my life, and the last thing I can remember that I prayed for was something that I asked God to give me as a Christmas present from Him.  He has given me so many gifts, from the birth of Christ to my children, from my salvation to my daily needs, etc, but I don’t think I have ever asked him for a Christmas present.  I know I prayed for it and everything else only if it was in His Will, so if I don’t get that special Christmas present then it just wasn’t His Will.  I fell asleep and had a dream; I don’t remember a whole lot about it though.  It wasn’t really vivid but I remember being at church and was going to sing Psalm 17.  I woke up at 2 in the morning and all I could think of was that I needed to read that Scripture.  I was so tired that I fell back to sleep before reading it, but I woke up again at 5 a.m. and the Lord just wasn’t going to let me go back to sleep until I read it.  The Scripture almost brought me to tears as it kind of seemed to fall in to the category of many things I had mentioned in this post, so I’m going to finish this post with the words of a prayer of David.

Psalm 17 KJV
1 Hear the right, O LORD, attend unto my cry, give ear unto my prayer, that goeth not out of feigned lips.
2 Let my sentence come forth from thy presence; let thine eyes behold the things that are equal.
3 Thou hast proved mine heart; thou hast visited me in the night; thou hast tried me, and shalt find nothing; I am purposed that my mouth shall not transgress.
4 Concerning the works of men, by the word of thy lips I have kept me from the paths of the destroyer.
5 Hold up my goings in thy paths, that my footsteps slip not.
6 I have called upon thee, for thou wilt hear me, O God: incline thine ear unto me, and hear my speech.
7 Shew thy marvellous lovingkindness, O thou that savest by thy right hand them which put their trust in thee from those that rise up against them.
8 Keep me as the apple of the eye, hide me under the shadow of thy wings,
9 From the wicked that oppress me, from my deadly enemies, who compass me about.
10 They are inclosed in their own fat: with their mouth they speak proudly.
11 They have now compassed us in our steps: they have set their eyes bowing down to the earth;
12 Like as a lion that is greedy of his prey, and as it were a young lion lurking in secret places.
13 Arise, O LORD, disappoint him, cast him down: deliver my soul from the wicked, which is thy sword:
14 From men which are thy hand, O LORD, from men of the world, which have their portion in this life, and whose belly thou fillest with thy hid treasure: they are full of children, and leave the rest of their substance to their babes.
15 As for me, I will behold thy face in righteousness: I shall be satisfied, when I awake, with thy likeness.

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Little Big Girl

In two weeks my oldest child is going to be a teenager.  I wonder where all the time has gone and how I got so old. :)  I'm going to share a poem that I wrote for her when she was about 15 months old.  It is about how she was growing up so fast.  Now that she is almost 13 years old, it seems like it went even faster than that first year or so of her life.  It doesn't matter how old she gets, she will always be my baby girl, always and forever!  I love you, Destiny!

Little Big Girl
Joy you bring to my heart
With every single glance
Laughter you bring to my eyes
As you shake and dance
You crawl up in the rocking chair
And smile so big at me
You think you're such a big girl
And you make sure I can see
You get on your tricycle
"Rmmmm, Rmmmm", off you go
You're getting bigger each day
This you seem to know
You always know just what you want
And that I'll grant all your wishes
Then I get my rewards
With big girl hugs and kisses
You look at me as if to say,
"Mom, I'm all grown up"
Now that you have traded
Your bottle for your cup
We go for walks, holding hands
You sometimes pull away
More and more independent
You become every day
You have gotten so much bigger
Since you first came in my world
My little bitty newborn baby
Is now my little big girl!
-LaDawn Cossey
April 24, 2002

Sunday, December 15, 2013

The Dream

I was walking out of Church on a beautiful, bright Sunday.  A man walking beside me talking to me as my 7 year old son took off running to my car.  As the man and I walked side by side, he put his arm around my waist.  It felt good feeling a bit of companionship because I haven’t had that in quite a long time.  Then all of a sudden he pushed the right side of my hip as close as he could get it to the left side of his hip.  It was as if we were attached at the hip, so to speak.  I could tell he was excited about the new companionship and to be honest, so was I.  I looked into his eyes and thought to myself, What are all the people at Church going to think about us being so close to each other?  This all seems so sudden.  But no more had I had that thought when I had another, But if he cares so much about me that he doesn’t care what everyone else thinks, then why should I?  After all, we both know this is what God wants.  We got to my car and he looked into my eyes and said, “You won’t see me for a little while because I need to go make some money to take you out on a date, but I promise I will see you just as soon as I can.”  I then told him how I understood, but once I was inside my car I thought to myself, Why does this man love me?  He probably deserves so much more than I can give him.

The next day had come and as I arrived at my job I was surprised to see him in the parking lot of my employer.  He was in a food truck and was getting ready to serve food to anyone who was willing to buy it.  I got out of my car and approached him.  He told me how he was hoping to sell some food to the people who were working inside the building.  I really wanted to help him so I took out a pen and paper and I went inside.  I gathered as many orders for food as I could and then took them back to him.  We served food to many people and I knew he had made a little bit of money.  I asked him how much and he told me that it was somewhere around one hundred and fifty dollars.  I told him how I felt that was pretty good, but he responded by saying, “It isn’t enough.”  I couldn’t believe what he was saying because he had said at Church that he just needed to make enough to take me on a date and I knew that was more than enough to take me on a date because I really don’t need anything fancy or anything special.  So, I asked, “Why isn’t that enough?”  He said, “If we are going to be a family then I need to bring in more money than that to provide for us.  It just isn’t enough.”  I reassured him that God would provide for us, after all, we already knew this was God’s Will for our lives.  I told him of places that I thought he could make more money, but he said those places weren’t going to make enough money either.  So, we traveled from place to place in search of somewhere he could provide for the family.  I compiled a box full of files about information that I thought might help him in his search.  As we were sitting in the vehicle, him sitting behind the wheel and I sitting in the passenger’s seat, he began to look through the files.

Suddenly, my cell phone rang and I answered it.  The voice on the other side of the phone was my ex-boyfriend.  I could tell by his tone of voice that he was upset that I had found someone to be with.  He kept talking to me about anything and everything that he could think of just to keep me on the line even though he knew I didn’t have the slightest interest in what he had to say.  All of a sudden I look out the windshield of the vehicle we were sitting in and it was moving and headed straight for a tree.  I screamed, “Don’t hit the tree!”  He then slammed on the brakes.  I was trying to calm myself down, but was still on the phone with my ex whom didn’t have any concern about what had just happened.  So much that he said, “I need to make supper, but I’m not sure what I want.”  When I heard him say that the panic I had just endured turned into frustration and I raised my voice to him and said, “What is it that you want?!?!”  My ex-boyfriend replied, “Meatloaf, I guess.  Why are you getting so upset about what I have for supper?”  I laughed within myself, Meatloaf?  I calmed myself down and replied, “No, not what do you want for supper, but what do you want from me?  I have nothing left to give you and I’m with who I am supposed to be with and where I am supposed to be because that is what I want, because it is what God wants, so what is it that you want from me?” 

Ugh, dreams!  I woke up this morning from having the above paragraphs as a dream.  This dream stayed with me all day long, in my thoughts all morning long at church, in my head all afternoon, in my head tonight at church, and yup, as you can see, it’s still in my head.  I could psychoanalyze this dream, you could psychoanalyze this dream, everyone who reads this post could psychoanalyze this dream, but none of us would probably come up with the same analysis.  I’m a firm believer that sometimes dreams mean something.  Sometimes God tries to speak to us and I have said it before and will say it again, God has spoken to me through my dreams before.  Perhaps that is why when I have such a vivid dream that I seem to dwell on it, looking for some hidden message or an obvious message if it is there to find.  But is there a message within this particular dream?  Only God above knows the answer to that question because as much as I can sit here and dissect it bit by bit, I will probably never even reach the tip of what it really means.

When I have dreams like this, it reminds me of Joseph.  The dreams he had and how God showed him so many things within them.  God had a plan for him and when I think about it, God’s plan was basically planned around his dreams.  Not only did God show him things within his own dreams, but also showed him things within other’s dreams.  By doing so he was able to fulfill God’s plan to preserve the lives of so many people including the lives of his brothers who sold him into slavery.  So, when I think about the dreams that I sometimes have and how there is no clear picture of what it may or may not mean, I guess it always makes me curious as to whether God is trying to tell me something.  Perhaps it seems a little silly, but even Joseph’s brothers probably thought Joseph’s dreams were silly too, but in the end, God had a plan.

Genesis 45:4-8 KJV
“And Joseph said unto his brethren, Come near to me, I pray you.  And they came near.  And he said, I am Joseph your brother, whom ye sold into Egypt.  Now therefore be not grieved, nor angry with yourselves, that ye sold me hither: for God did send me before you to preserve life.  For these two years hath the famine been in the land: and yet there are five years, in the which there shall neither be earing nor harvest.  And God sent me before you to preserve you a posterity in the earth, and to save your lives by a great deliverance.  So now it was not you that sent me hither, but God: and he hath made me a father to Pharaoh, and lord of all his house, and a ruler throughout the land of Egypt.”

Monday, November 18, 2013

LaDawn 101

Who am I?  I’m sure at some point and time in your life that you have been asked to describe yourself in some way.  Lately, I have seen on facebook people liking a status and then being given a number.  Then they have to tell that number of facts about themselves.  So, I’m challenging myself to think of 101 things about myself that you may or may not know about me.    

1.       I am a Christian.

2.      I am the mother of two children.

3.      I am 35 years old.

4.      I am single.

5.      I got saved and baptized when I was 16 years old.

6.      I backslid when I was about 20 years old.

7.      I rededicated my life back to God about a year and a half ago.

8.      I love the Lord with all my heart!

9.      I didn’t used to be, but now I am extremely picky when it comes to dating.  Basically, because now I will only date a Christian man.

10.   With that being said and good Christian men being so hard to find, I haven’t been on a date in over a year.

11.   A close friend of mine and I got matching rings when we were teenagers.  They were to remind us to save ourselves for marriage.  I’m not sure if she still has hers, but I still have mine.  Even though I didn’t keep that vow to save myself for marriage, I currently wear it as a symbol that I know God has forgiven me and that I won’t make the same mistake again.  Yes, I’m 35 years old and saving myself for marriage.

12.   I used to teach the preteen Sunday School class at my childhood church.

13.   I love to sing, but I get nervous singing around or in front of a lot of people.

14.   I have naturally curly hair.

15.   I wish I had straight hair.

16.   I have blue eyes.

17.   I love watching St. Louis Cardinals Baseball and I have since I was a kid.

18.   I used to collect baseball cards when I was a kid. 

19.   My favorite baseball card from my collection is my Ozzie Smith Rookie card.

20.   While I have a television, I haven’t had cable or satellite in about 6 years or so.

21.   What “television” or movies I watch are watched mostly on Netflix.

22.   I graduated from Emmanuel Baptist Christian School.

23.   I was the only high school graduate that year.

24.   I was privileged to graduate one year early.

25.   I’m currently enrolled in college and I am majoring in Psychology and Health and Human Services.

26.   I have never had any piercings, not even my earlobes.

27.   I have no tattoos.

28.   My favorite color is green.

29.   I have been engaged to be married twice; however, I have never been married.  My first engagement was when I was 16 (yup, I now realize I was way too young) and my second engagement was to my daughter’s father, but we never got around to tying the knot.

30.   The dispensed soap that we use at work makes my hands peel and become extremely dry so I have to use special soap for sensitive skin.

31.   My favorite food would be anything Italian.

32.   I had my first child, a daughter when I was 22.

33.   I gave birth to my second child, a son, when I was 28.

34.   About 8 months after I gave birth to my son, I found out that more than likely he had a twin that I miscarried early on in my pregnancy.  Can you imagine two Justices?!?!  LOL

35.   My birthday is May 4.

36.   I have only regularly attended 3 different Churches my entire life.

37.   When I was a teenager, I wanted to get married and literally have a busload of kids.  I’m talking lots of kids like the Duggars!  LOL

38.   I don’t like raw celery, but I like to eat it if it is cooked in vegetable soup.

39.   The only names I gave my son were his first and last names.  My daughter actually picked out his middle name, Shay.  She wanted to name him after their Aunt Shay.

40.   There are meanings behind why I named both my children their names.

41.   I was named after a little girl my mother babysat when she was a teenager.

42.   I love movies that make me cry.

43.   I have a Bible that I keep in my car.  It comes in handy for when I have to sit in my car and wait whether it is in a drive thru or if I get to work early I sometimes read before I go inside.  My thoughts are that life gets so busy and if there is down time where I have nothing to do but wait, then why not use that time wisely and read the Word of God.

44.   When at home, I read my Bible on my I pad.

45.   I have 3 sisters and 2 brothers.

46.   I am the youngest child in my family.

47.   I am the only child that my parents have together.  All my other brothers and sisters were with other spouses of one of my parents.

48.   The longest I have ever held a job was 2 months short of 10 years.

49.   I listen to mostly Contemporary Christian music.

50.   My favorite song right now would probably be “Just Say Jesus” by 7eventh Time Down.

51.   I believe that God can speak to us in our dreams.

52.   I have actually had several dreams that actually came to pass.  Most were what seem to be silly dreams like dreaming someone got a haircut or shaved off their beard, etc.

53.   I do not know how to swim.

54.   My dad only spanked me one time when I was growing up.

55.   My mom is my best friend.

56.   My biggest fear is probably the fear of snakes.

57.   I enjoy writing unless it’s a research paper!  LOL

58.   I really want to be a counselor or something in which I can work with teenagers.

59.   I love to daydream.

60.   I tend to over think every situation.

61.   I am very tenderhearted. 

62.   I am a shy and quiet person.

63.   I have never flown on an airplane.

64.   I believe everything happens for a reason, even me writing LaDawn 101 and you taking the time to read it. :)

65.   I am a reliable person. 

66.   I tend to have the bad habit of procrastination, especially when it comes to schoolwork.  (In which case, I am currently procrastinating right now.  LOL)

67.   My favorite Scripture is Isaiah 40:31. “But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; they shall walk, and not faint.”

68.   I have a clock that no longer tells time, but I keep it because it belonged to my Grandma Sue.

69.   If I could have one prayer answered right now, it would be that God would have His Will in my life.

70.   I’m not a materialistic person.  I don’t need the finer things in life to be happy. 

71.   As a teenager, I always thought it would be awesome to get married at Busch Stadium.  I sometimes still think it would be pretty cool.

72.   I would love to watch a game in every MLB ballpark.

73.   I have lived in 4 towns my entire life.  All in the state of Missouri (Dexter, Bloomfield, Moberly, & Higbee).

74.   I have never had a speeding ticket.

75.   My favorite fruit is probably pineapple.

76.   I love eating raw tomatoes straight from the garden.  Just give me a salt shaker and a mater and you have yourself one happy girl.

77.   When I was a little girl, I called corn on the cob, “cob on the corn”.  When visiting my Grandparents in Arkansas, my Grandma Verdie always made sure I got my “cob on the corn”.  :)

78.   Out of all the States, I have always wanted to visit Alaska more than any other State.  I’m not sure why, it just fascinates me for some reason.

79.   The only amusement park rides that I like are the water rides.

80.   I don’t mind cooking, but the worst chore ever is washing dishes.

81.   My favorite soda is Cherry 7up.

82.   I have never had a broken bone.

83.   I have a bad habit of biting my fingernails.

84.   I became an aunt at the age of two.

85.   I have fair skin and can easily get a sunburn.

86.   I sometimes wish that I was more outgoing.

87.   My favorite cereal is Cocoa Pebbles.

88.   My favorite restaurant is probably Olive Garden.

89.   I love pecan pie.

90.   I love the smell of a freshly sliced cucumber.

91.   I would rather be cold than be hot.

92.   My favorite cologne for a man to wear is Derek Jeter Driven by Avon.  That smell could make any girl fall in love!  LOL

93.   I am not easily angered.  It actually takes a lot to get me upset.

94.   I’m not fond of wearing a coat.  I’d much rather throw on a hoodie.

95.   Someone recently gave me a recipe for Taco Soup.  It’s my new favorite soup!

96.   I like to do couponing, but I really haven’t had time for it lately.

97.   I’m not a big fan of animals in the house.  Nothing against anyone who does, I just don’t want any in my house.

98.   I’m an honest person and if there is one thing that I dislike, it is someone who will lie to me.

99.   I am very impatient.  It is something that I have been trying to work on.

100.  I don’t like to take medicine and I’m not sure why but I won’t take it unless I absolutely just have to.

101.  One thing I learned about myself by doing this blog post is that my brain doesn’t seem to work as fast as it used to.  It took me 3 days to think of 101 facts about myself! 
   Well, there you have it.  I hope you made it to the end without falling asleep, if so, then you just got schooled in LaDawn 101!